Monday, February 15, 2010

Find what is love and love itself

Everyone in their life, will find that special someone, that faith has bought them to them, even through the worst times in their life, faith catches them, and hold them in, until love releases them to that special someone. When you have obtain the power of love, hold on to it, for that it is beyond amazing. It will grasps you in close, and protect you for that no matter what, that special someone is in your life for a purpose. When you meet this person, don't hold back, for that love is beyond our imagination and yet within our faiths, but we must hold strong. Love isn't just a feeling or just a emotion, but means of staying alive. When we have rest assure of what we can understand of love, faith will come in and take care of the rest!

Thursday, November 26, 2009

Indecisive

We tend to be indecisive about things. This is what leads to many road blocks our your relationships. Indecisive-problems start from many different directions and in many different situations. It is a form of holding back, fear of something you are not sure of, and a form of denial. Indecisiveness will cause may problems in your life, it will cause you over think things, and your mind will deceive you with your heart. When you become so indecisive about something, your mind will lead you somewhere that you cannot/may not handle. It will cause you to break down, and destroy your relationship, because you did not allow things to just happen on its own. When you are indecisive, you doubt your faith, and your relationship. Ask yourself the next time your over-thinking something: Do I not have trust and confidence in myself and in my relationship?

Indecisive is holding back on something you are kind of sure of, but are not sure of it, in another hand. It is like watching a baseball game with the best team going against the worst team, but you know in your heart, that the best team will win, but you cannot decide which team you are going for, because you are held back from the possibility of doubt. When you hold back, you will effectively cause your relationship to have many problems because you will take too much control on something you should not have control over. Not to say that we cannot have control on our emotions, feeling, and of course, our relationship, but there is up to a limit, at where we should just let it go, and just allow things to fall into place. Do you not have any strength to face any possible outcome and knowing that you have faith that you can?

When we reach a certain point in our relationship or in life, we become afraid of things. We become afraid, because we cannot decide what is good and what is needed, and we tend to forget what is best for us. We then become afraid when things happen, and tend to fall back and hide in our closest, until we "figure" things out. We cannot be afraid, because it lacks self confidences and self awareness within ourselves. Do you not know yourself the best? When we become indecisive about things, we become afraid of the results/outcomes, because we cannot separate reality and with possibility. We tend to over think things and try to figure things out, but we do not hold the answers to something that has not been solved yet. Do not try to over think things, because if we have faith in ourselves, then what ever happens in the situation, it was for a purpose that it happened. If we have done our part and still the situation hasnt gotten any better, let go and allow faith to take control.

Denial falls into indecisiveness. WHY? Because those who are indecisive, 50% of the time they know the real outcome of the situation without thinking about it, but chooses to deny that. We tend to block off the real reasons, outcome, and decisions when it comes to indecisiveness. We tend to bend the truth to cope with the situation and telling ourselves what we want to hear. Are you denying the fact that your relationship can get better, but is so afraid that you put a road block to cope with your emotional states? Stop denying! It will cause you to think about a false statement, because you allow your heart to deceive you in thinking the other way. When you become indecisive, you block out all good reasons to choose one way, and create another way in thinking about things.

Indecisiveness will cause you to think the other way, but you cannot deny faith. Allow faith to take over, and you will understand that things happen for a reason. A wise man chooses to have two roads to choose from, but a wiser man knows which to take. Ask yourself: Why am I always indecisive with my relationship?

Thankful

In love, we must understand that it takes hard work, for that we are working on something great. We tend to misplace our love ones position, and take love for granted. Love is form of many things, and one of which is honor. Honor those who are in your life, for that it was faith was who drove you guys together. Be thankful for everything you have in your life, and take the time to just say "Thank you". Honoring is hard, but it is a start, that will build upon, not only your relationship, but your character. Appreciation is a form of honor. Forget the past and the pains that you went through and just love and cherish one another. Many people tends to grasp back to the pain, and it is hard to just let go and forgive, but understand that if we all just let go, and start over fresh, we not only save our relationship with people, but we become a better person. Why? Because you understand yourself more, and you will build love upon yourself. Just by letting go and understanding that the past is behind you, you will understand how much you can handle in a situation, how much love you can have for someone, and above all, you will understand how to love yourself. Take the time to thank someone, because it is a act of love, and love is not only shown through voice of tongues, but through action.

Love is honoring when we "think" they do not deserve it, but we still do it. When you thank someone you do not think they deserve it from you, they will not only appreciate it, but understand love in a different perspective. Just by showing that love towards someone else in your life, they will grasp that, and learn how to love. Honoring someone you do not think deserve it, will build love upon yourself, because you will understand what is it to truly love. Love is not hard, nor easy, but it takes hard work. Just by being thankful for them, is just the beginning. Today, be thankful for who you have in your life, and this is just the beginning to be more thankful more often.

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Attitude

Your attitude will reflect on the people you meet everyday. Before you can face other people, face yourself. Some of you people today, sit in a constant wonders of why things happen to you, and why you cannot move forward in life, but never start to think and reflect upon yourself. Isn't one's mirror shows the reflection of ones self? Don't we take in what we let out? We need to build upon attitude, before we search in longitude. How you face people, will determine what kind of relationship you will have with them. If you are always angry all the time, you will have people, who cannot stand anger, always turn their backs on you. We must find ourselves deep within the surface we put out to the world, because some of us are just so completely covered by bad attitudes, that it tends to control you. We need to change perspectives, because how can I question my life, if I never tried to "fix" it? Our behaviors will determine the things and actions you will do in aspect of your relationship with other people.

The things and behaviors we do is the only way to cop with our situations. Meaning the way we do things in about our lives, is a way to handle and understand our situation in life. We tend to have certain attitude in certain ways because we tend to be in denial. Those who say that attitude problems cannot be fixed, is only denying the fact that it can be, and by that, they cop with the situation by continuing to do the things they do, and choose to continue to ignore the fact that it can be, but chooses to not do anything.

Before we can even "change" ourselves, ask yourself: "Why? Why am I always upset at things? Why is my attitude problems aren't going away? Is it because I feel like nothing in my life is going the way I want it to go?" Before we can come to an conclusion, try to understand this: a farm can be fruitful, if we harvest daily. We cannot sit here and just be upset for no reasons. Now ask yourself:"Did I tried? Am I moving?"

One thing that we have to understand is that the mood that we are in, is an option we choose to be in. We have full control on how we go about tings. When you hear that people cannot control their angry, tell them that they are wrong. Angry, and as well as the rest of the emotion states that we tend to be under, can be control. For example, when you are arguing with someone at home, and the phone rings, would you bring that angry towards that person on that phone? It would then depends on who is calling, and why they are calling. So really, these feelings we have are control by us. Though we choose to be angry, the level angry is determine by the personality. There is up to a limit where a person reaction towards a certain current event can be changed by simply changing perspective.

Your friends will determine what type of person you will turn out. It is likely that the groups that you surround yourself daily is the result to the behaviors and habits that you will encounter. Before you can blame anyone for your attitude problems, ask yourself: "Are the poeple around me helping my situation get any better?" We tend to attract people who would want us in their lives. Your attitude will not bring the people who do not like your attitude in your life. One of the biggest question you can ask yourself: "Would I be my own friend, if I were not me?"

The things that you do will determine the type of habits you will pick up. Why are the friends I have, my friends and why are the friends I want, not my friends? Do not question the values of your relationship with people, but questions the reasons. Our attitude problem cannot be fixed by your friends, but examining your friends that are in your friend and understanding how much of a effect they have, will help fix your problem. We tend to forget that we hold the option of the TYPE of people we let in, BUT not the people themselves. For that the people are in your life was by faith's purpose. By just trying to change your perspective, your moods, your attitude, and your behavior, can determine which type of people will enter your life. By that alone, you will see who are the people in your life really are and who truly stays, and who we need to let go of.
Changing your attitude alone is not easy, nor hard. It depends on how much of the potential you have in changing.How much work you put in, will determine the outcome of your results.

Monday, November 23, 2009

Faith

Although you might think that not all things are fixable, it is not up to us to decide that. Only faith will determine what is and what isn't fixable. we need to just let go and understand that everything you go through have a purpose in life. We cannot fix what is not fixable, but instead just allow things to happen. Sometimes the best relationships are one that is not fixable by man, but by faith. Allow things to just happen, and just let go. We cannot force love to take place, but if we just do our part, then we know that we did all we can to "fix" things. Do not take it upon yourself to over do things, for that it will lead to something you may not be able to handle. Ask yourself the next time, "Is this who I really want to be with, if it has to come to this point that I have to change my ways or to do something I am not comfortable doing?" Although love isn't always comfortable, we need to understand that it is a place that two people meet in compatibility. Take this in the sense that I am not saying to work hard to save your relationship, but that if you just put yourself in, and allow faith to do the rest, you will save your relationship. Do not, again, do not want something more than you know you can not have, and just let go what you know what you need to let go. If you have done your part in saving the relationship, and that person is still has their back turn, ask yourself : "Is this who I really want to be with, after all the faith I have given into this"